A frank and witty tour of modern sexuality from a knowing young "sexpert" who's seen -- and done -- it all. From her popular columns and website to her videos and lecture series, Tristan Taormino has garnered raves for her unabashed straight talk about sex. Now, for the first time in book form, she imparts wisdom gleaned from years of adventurous and informative sexual anthropology. As a sex educator, Tristan has listened to thousands of people's most intimate questions. In Pucker Up, she responds to those queries -- no matter how taboo -- giving honest, useful advice that doesn't shy away from sensitive topics. All the basics are covered here, but Tristan also tackles such topics as strap-ons, female ejaculation, the latest sex toys, erotica and how it can improve your love life, and new strategies for hitting that elusive G-spot. Pucker Up is quite simply an indispensable book for anyone looking for healthy, adventuresome, mind-blowing sex.
In Pucker Up: A Hands-On Guide to Ecstatic Sex, sexpert Tristan Taormino (The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women), who has appeared in Entertainment Weekly, New York, Spin, Playboy and on The Howard Stern Show and the Discovery Channel, combines know-how, enthusiasm, practicalities, compassion and humor to spread the joy of an aspect of our lives "still trivialized, marginalized, and denigrated by most of our cultural institutions." Imparting wisdom on anatomy, communication, safe sex, anal sex, "the basics" (hand jobs and oral sex), toys, tools, erotica, role-playing you name it (don't be shy!), Taormino inspires confidence that all things are possible, not to mention desirable. Illus. (Sept.) Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information. -- PUBLISHERS WEEKLY.
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September 02, 2001
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Excerpt from Pucker Up by Tristan Taormino
I peddled dildos for a living, and it changed my life. As a salesperson at the women-owned sex-toy shop Toys in Babeland in New York City, I actually sold more than rubber dongs and silicone cocks. The shelves are filled with products designed for pleasure -- vibrators, lubricants, condoms, butt plugs, massage oils, leather harnesses, paddles, anal beads, blindfolds, nipple clamps, latex gloves, and adult videos. But the store offers something else that is perhaps more valuable than even the most expensive toys: honest, useful information and advice about sexuality. Every day I worked there, dozens of ordinary folks walked through the door looking for what we had inside. Their searches almost always began with a question. Most of them were complete strangers, and yet they told me things about themselves that were extremely personal and deeply intimate. Their revelations were sometimes moving, sometimes surprising, and always fascinating.
A been-there-done-that rocker chick strutted toward me one day, all pierced and tattooed, and I was sure she was headed for the S/M section at the back of the store; instead, she said, "I'm here to buy my first vibrator." A middle-aged stockbroker, who looked out of place next to a table of colorful anal toys, took an hour to summon the nerve to tell me he wanted a penis pump and a book on tantric sex. A city bus driver, still in uniform and just off work, came in with his wife; they meandered around the store, speaking in whispers to each other, then approached me. She looked at her feet shyly, and he did all the talking. They wanted a strap-on dildo for her to do him in the ass. I figured out pretty quickly that I could never assume anything about anyone's sex life by simply looking at the person.
I also learned to be as neutral and objective as possible when hearing people's concerns, queries, and individual situations. I needed to listen without bias or judgment. I needed to leave behind my own sexual preferences and preoccupations in order to meet my customers where they stood at the moment. Across boundaries of race, class, gender, sexual orientation, age, ability, and education, I had to listen and respond to some very important issues, problems, and desires. I usually left work feeling less like a retail clerk and more like a sex therapist.
Feeling like a sex therapist was somewhat familiar to me. After my first book, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, was published in 1998, I needed a unique way to promote it. As you can imagine, it did not exactly lend itself to the traditional book reading. Most bookstores weren't clamoring to create a huge poster of the cover, put it in the window, and announce a book signing by me. It was no Chicken Soup for Your Ass, even if I thought it was. Distributors were concerned that people would be too embarrassed to even buy it because of its taboo topic. It was only the second book ever devoted to this particular sexual subject, and I believed it was an important and necessary one. I wanted so much to spread the word about the ecstatic possibilities of anal sex. I decided to embark on a mission to teach the world how to have safe and pleasurable anal sex; in the process, if I sold some books, that would be a bonus. I traveled around the country teaching workshops in order to replace some of the myths and misconceptions about this forbidden act with facts and specific information.