Hot Sex: How to Do It took the world by storm and was a bestseller in more than 40 countries. Now The Hot Sex Handbook serves up all the juiciest bits in a handy take-anywhere size-so you can have hot sex wherever you go. Hundreds of steamy tips will have you shredding the sheets and begging for more.
* The famous 10-step guide to giving him a hellishly good blow job
* Ohmigod-don't-ever-stop oral sex for her
* The hot new way to have intercourse (guaranteed to up her orgasm quota)
* His and hers how-to-find-it guides to your G-spot
* Sex toys tried and tested
* Enough foreplay ideas to keep you amused for days, weeks, months...
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July 25, 2005
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Excerpt from The Hot Sex Handbook by Tracey Cox
Wicked Ways to Warm Up
Anyone can be good in bed. Genital size doesn't matter. Looks don't matter. You don't have to have legs up to your chin or arms like Arnie, drive a sports car, or be rolling in it to be the best lover your partner's ever had. But you do need a good, working knowledge of your subject. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise: sex skills can be learned, we can all improve on them, and I can't think of a better place to start than with foreplay.
It takes the average man two to three minutes of direct sexual stimulation with a partner to orgasm. It takes the average woman twenty to thirty minutes. You don't need to be Einstein to figure out that if you spend longer on foreplay and master it, you'll need to swap your Little Black Book for a Big Black Briefcase to lug around all your phone numbers. And women aren't the only ones who like foreplay. Even men who can get an erection by inserting a coin in a slot machine can't deny that a good, slow, erotic "tease" dramatically heightens all sexual sensation. Convinced it's imperative you get it right? Thought so! Now, here's some suggestions to improve your foreplay finesse.
WHY YOU SHOULD masturbate IN FRONT OF EACH OTHER
Partners can't read minds. So get rid of that "If he/she truly loved me, they'd know what turns me on" stuff right now. Body language can speak volumes and talking to each other is essential, but as the saying goes, a picture is worth a thousand words. Watching each other masturbate, you see firsthand what technique you each use--the pressure and speed, how you speed it up or slow it down on approach to orgasm, how you stimulate yourself (or not) while you're actually having an orgasm, and what you do with your spare hand. All you need to do then is copy each other.
Generally, men are more comfortable masturbating than women are. If your girlfriend's the I'm-game-for-anything type, doing it in front of her may simply be a matter of taking a hold of yourself during foreplay. Chances are, she'll sit back and watch--lots of women are fascinated. If she ignores what you're doing, simply say, "I've had fantasies about masturbating in front of you. This feels great." If she still doesn't get the hint and watch add, "This is how I do it when you're not around. Watch." If you want her to imitate your technique, get her to put her hand over yours so she can feel the pressure and rhythm you're using. Ask her to copy you and give lots of positive feedback--"Wow! You're better at it than I am." Uninhibited women can easily apply the same principles.
Your partner's a little shy and so are you? Talk about it first. Say you watched a show; a friend told you; you read about how watching each other masturbate will improve your sex life immeasurably. Ask if your partner agrees and suggest that the next time you make love, you try it. Don't be concerned if it all seems a bit serious and uncomfortable the first time round. Start by showing one technique you use: come on--that's a mere second or two of embarrassment! And get them to do the same. Later, when you both feel more comfortable, you'll be more confident and relaxed about bringing yourself to an actual orgasm. Masturbating in front of your partner or watching them masturbate has always been up there with the most popular male sex fantasies--and the new breed of sexually liberated females are adding it to their list.
"Happiness isn't a destination; it's a means of traveling." This old saying can be applied to foreplay. Rush through the "traveling" and you might find the destination isn't quite as exciting as you'd expected. Lavish attention on the whole body and you can't help but take your time.
Erogenous zones are areas on our bodies that create intense sexual arousal when stimulated. Apart from the obvious bits that we all share (like the penis and the clitoris), each of us has our own secret area that sends frantic yes! yes! messages to all the right places. For some, it's being bitten in the small of their neck. Others go crazy when someone strokes their buttocks. But what works for one lover won't necessarily work on the next, so consider each new lover unexplored territory. There are few places on our bodies that we don't like being touched. Why restrict foreplay to the breasts and genitals when the entire body is itching for attention?
* Take a body tour. When you get to a new city, you often take an orientation tour to get your bearings, right? Then what's stopping you from doing the same with your new lover's body? You can go all out here and even use a few props. Make him lie down naked on his stomach and close his eyes--make sure the room you're in is private and warm--then trail a scarf slowly and tantalizingly across his naked bottom and back. Then turn him over and stroke a feather around his penis and scrotum. You can then move on to using your hands, hair, breasts, and mouth on his nipples and genital area, creating different sensations as you search for his ultimate pleasure zones.