List Price: $ 14.95
Save 16 % off List Price
Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex : How Changing Your Everyday Habits Will Make You Hot for Each Other All Over Again
Honey, Baby, Sweetums, Pookie . . . Who knew those sweet, androgynous pet names are the first step toward a nonexistent sex life? And all those 'personal grooming' activities you used to hide . . . Believe it or not, sharing them with your partner puts you on the fast track toward killing a healthy sexual relationship.
Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex is a smart, sassy, and honest guide for women of all ages, and looks at the root causes of sexual boredom in a revolutionary way. Authors Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis have discovered that it's the everyday things we say and do that sabotage sexual chemistry. They dare to pull back the sheets to examine the subtle yet powerful ways we're dulling our desire for our partners, while giving simple and practical solutions to rekindle the fire in our relationships.
This non-therapy-speak guide explains why date nights and sex in different locations are only Band-Aid solutions: The truth is, if you don't feel like having sex anymore, forcing yourselves to do it on the kitchen table is not going to fix the problem! In Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex, you'll also learn:
* Why arguing is an important factor in bringing couples closer together
* Why it is critical to maintain a sense of individuality
* How sexuality doesn't hinge on having the perfect body but rather on how a woman feels about herself and how she projects those feelings to her partner
If your sex life reads more like a service manual than a romance novel, stop calling him 'honey' and start rekindling the flame of desire!
There are no customer reviews available at this time. Would you like to write a review?
Health Communications, Inc.
August 31, 2010
Number of Print Pages*
Adobe DRM EPUB
* Number of eBook pages may differ. Click here for more information.
Excerpt from Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex by Maggie Arana
'I find that the most intimate thing my boyfriend can call me is my name.'
--Shari, age 30
'My sweetie and I never call each other by our names unless we're mad at each other. We don't have much sex anymore,
but we still love to cuddle.'
--Aimee, age 38
It's seemingly one of the most innocuous words in the world, but for a relationship it can be one of the most dangerous. The word is honey. How many of us call our partners 'honey'? Millions of us use the word in multiple countries and in multiple languages. Its use has become such a cliche that when we see a film or TV program where a husband returns home from work, we expect to hear him say, 'Hi, honey, I'm home!' This is probably one of the most common, socially accepted habits that can develop in long-term relationships. Nearly everyone calls their loved one an endearing nickname. They can't all be wrong can they? Yes, they can! And yes, they are!
What's wrong with calling each other 'honey,' you ask? Well, honey is great on a warm piece of toast, but lousy on a couple's sex life. Calling your partner 'honey' is the first step down the slippery slope toward a bland or nonexistent sexual relationship. And unfortunately, it usually doesn't stop with 'honey,' but degenerates into 'hon,' 'sweetie,' 'pookie,' 'papa bear,' 'pumpkin,' 'mugwump,' 'snookie-ookums,' 'furfy,' 'tweetie,' 'love bug,' 'cuddle face,' 'cutie pie,' 'biscuit,' 'tiger-twinkies,' 'doober,' 'schwinkie,' 'toodle-puss,' 'schmoopie'. . . you get the picture. And, yes, we could easily fill this entire chapter with the little endearing nicknames that we are all guilty of using. There's a lot of creativity goin' on there . . . and that's not helping either!
When you get married, part of the ritual is that you both become one, and that is one of the beautiful things about marriage. You have a permanent partner, an ally, a most-trusted friend. You trust your life, your savings, and most important, your heart with this person. They are your family now. But we need to look further into what 'becoming one' actually means.
Once you become one--as in two halves of a whole, rather than two whole complete separate people--you can say good-bye to the passionate sex you enjoyed in the beginning. Why? Because sexual attraction is often built upon being attracted to someone who is different than and separate from you. In marriage, however, this idea of two whole separate people often falls by the wayside after a few years of living together. It's often so easy to get too comfortable with one another and so close that you blur the lines between you and throw part of your identity away in the process. Separation and unique identities are essential to maintaining a good sex life. Becoming one means two whole complete separate people are joined together in marriage. Meaning . . . it's a partnership! It is not that each person gives up half of who they are for that partnership.