Relationships : An Open and Honest Guide to Making Bad Relationships Better and Good Relationships Great
Designed for college students, young adults, singles, and dating couples, this book teaches the basics of healthy relationships including friendship, dating, sexuality, and relating to God. It is accompanied by a 48 page workbook.
Today more than ever, people long for connection. In an age marked by isolation and loneliness, they measure riches in terms of belonging, acceptance, vulnerability, honesty, closeness, and commitment. And what they most want to know is how to make bad relationships better and good relationships great. Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott understand firsthand our deep need for relationships; and as relationship experts, they know what it takes to build strong, lasting bonds. In Relationships, the Parrotts take us below the surface to the depths of human interactions -- to the nitty-gritty realities, the ups-and-downs of building vital, satisfying connections. They provide the tools needed to handle tough times and to really succeed at forging strong, rewarding relationships with friends, with the opposite sex, with family, and with God. This cutting-edge book is full of the latest findings and contemporary relationship-building strategies. In a high-tech world, it offers a high-touch solution to a better life. The Parrotts share not just from their knowledge, but from their hearts and lives to help us all understand - who we are and what we bring to our relationships - how our families of origin shape the way we relate to others - tips for building friendships that last - secrets to finding the love we long for and handling sexual issues - how to handle failed friendships and breakups without falling apart - how to relate to God without feeling phony
Filled with insightful, true-life stories and thought-provoking questions, Relationships is an honest and timely guide to forming the rich relationships that are life's greatest treasure. This book is accompanied by a workbook that contains more than 35 self-tests to help you put what you learn into action. The Relationships Workbook will help you internalize cutting-edge strategies, skills, and insights for nurturing healthy relationships.
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April 30, 2002
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Excerpt from Relationships by Leslie Parrott
IntroductionOur Longing for BelongingThere is no substitute for the comfort supplied by the utterly taken-for-granted relationship.-- Iris MurdochRecently a pioneering band of researchers studied the age-old mystery of what makes people happy. Their answer is not what you might expect. What appears consistently at the top of the charts is not success, wealth, achievement, good looks, or any of those enviable assets. The clear winner is relationships. Close ones.Nothing reaches so deeply into the human personality, tugs so tightly, as relationship. Why? For one reason, it is only in the context of connection with others that our deepest needs can be met. Whether we like it or not, each of us has an unshakable dependence on others. It''s what philosopher John Donne was getting at when he said so succinctly, "No man is an island." We need camaraderie, affection, love. These are not options in life, or sentimental trimmings; they are part of our species'' survival kit. We need to belong.Not long ago, we spent a Saturday evening on a radio talk show in Chicago. The show was an open line to much of the nation. The two of us sat with a host in a small glass booth full of electrical equipment, and outside a sole telephone operator managed six working lines. From 8:00 p.m. until 10:00 p.m. we talked to strange voices coming from Anywhere, USA. The lines were never free, always one speaking, five waiting. The subject was relationships, and the calls ranged from questions and opinions about family and friends to sex and romance.This wasn''t so much an interview. We were simply facilitators of a large-scale discussion - adding our two cents'' worth when the host wanted a professional sound bite. Once the program got rolling, most of the callers phoned in to commend or clobber a previous caller. "That last guy who called about his mother being so domineering needs to get a life," said one typical caller. "If he doesn''t want a meddling mom, he needs to move out of her house." Blah, blah, blah. Having never done a radio show quite like this, we were getting the feeling that most people were more interested in hearing themselves talk than anything else. At least we felt that way before Tom, a desperate college student, phoned in."You''re on the air, Tom, go ahead," the host said."Ya. I''ve never called a radio station or anything, but I''m kinda . . ." Tom cleared his throat and continued speaking slowly. "I''m kinda . . .""Do you have a question or comment, Tom?" said the time-conscious host. "Go ahead.""I don''t have a question or anything" - deep sigh - "I''m just listening and I feel . . . I don''t know."The host rolled his eyes at us and gave the phone operator on the other side of the glass partition nonverbal signals to get Tom off the line and go to the next caller."You called for a reason, Tom," I (Les) said. "What is it you are feeling?""Well, it''s just that I haven''t talked to anyone for so long.""You haven''t talked to anyone!" the host blurted out."I''ve talked to people, but not really talked in a way that means anything."The host looked quizzical and nodded in our direction."So what is it you are feeling, Tom?" I asked.There was an exceptionally long silence before Tom answered with a single word: "Lonely."Something about this word and the way he said it - his frankness and vulnerability - as well as the follow-up discussion, drastically changed the tone of the remaining minutes of the program. The crusty callers and opinionated commentaries seemed to vanish. One caller after the next echoed Tom''s emotion. On this Saturday night, all over the country, if only for a few minutes, faceless people phoned in to share the experience of being alone. Even the cynical host warmed up a bit and wondered out loud: "Aren''t all of us, even with people all around, susceptible to loneliness?"The answer is yes. In a culture where we can pull money from a machine and never interact with a human bank teller, walk on a crowded sidewalk without meeting another''